Beautiful morning, you're the sun in my morning babe
Nothing unwanted

Beautiful morning, you're the sun in my morning babe

Nothing unwanted

Just want to feel liberated, I, I, I
I just want to feel liberated, I, I, I

If I ever instigated I’m sorry
Tell me who in here can relate, 

I, I, I

Everything I do is art and I'm pretty fucking sure you have no idea what it's all about. 




1. Copying - unconsciously adopting patterns in your environment 
2. Imitating - consciously adopting patterns in your environment for personal safety and development
3. Rope-playing - consciously adopting patterns in your environment or in our mind for influencing other people
4.  Becoming - consciously adopting patterns in your environment or in your mind to change what you are (as a mystic might do) 

Human beings often mimic or imitate others unconsciously. Mimicry has social benefits. Imitating others helps build rapport between two people or bond together social groups. Copying others, more broadly, can range from non-conscious processes whereby perception (seeing others engage in a certain behavior) becomes directly linked to our own behavior, to conscious strategies, where we choose to imitate either because we’re uncertain about the best course of action or because we want to fit in. As consumers, we may order the same meal that we just saw another person eat, while being unaware of the copying process. Or we may consciously copy others by asking the waiter for the most popular item on the menu. Strategic copying makes particular sense when there’s an abundance of choice, such as for books or movies. When I’m uncertain about the next DVD to rent, I often go to my favorite movie review website and make a pre-selection based on two factors: popularity (rental rank) and average favorability in expert opinions. (I use a conjunctive decision rule: the movie has to be high in both rental rank and expert opinion.)
Whether it occurs consciously or unconsciously, in face-to-face interactions or online, copying is associated with conformity. Yet people also like to maintain a certain level of uniqueness, especially in cultures valuing individualism and independence. Some time ago, I was shopping for a new jacket and found one that I liked. When I saw another shopper try on the same jacket, the purchase suddenly lost some of its appeal. (It was too expensive, anyway) Although I sometimes wonder how many others may have bought the same item of clothing, actually seeing someone else take an interest in “my” jacket made the purchase a lot less special.  My illusion of individuality as a consumer was compromised.
New research by White and Argo (2011) demonstrates what may happen in those types of situations. While an imitated person can feel and behave positively towards the mimicker (being copied is flattering!), reactions are often different from consumers who are aware of being copied and feel that their distinctiveness is being compromised. In a series of experiments, the researchers found that a person’s consumption being mimicked by someone similar to them (e.g. a friend) makes it more likely for that person to distance him or herself from a product they already own. But this occurs only when the person’s distinctiveness concerns are heightened. More particularly, results showed that:
  • Being primed with an independent self-construal was associated with greater disposal intentions (whether they would dispose of, throw away, pack away or give away a perfume) among people who felt similar to the person who mimicked them.
  • People who noticed that they were being copied were more likely to re-customize the symbolic part of a product bundle (symbolic products are more closely tied to a consumer’s sense of self, i.e. lip gloss rather than a sponge) if they were people with high ‘need for uniqueness’ and the mimicker was similar to them.
  • Being primed with an independent self-construal led to more product disposals (asking for a less desirable sandal in exchange for their initial preferred choice) among people who put a high degree of effort into acquiring the product.
Many of us would probably like to live with a certain degree of illusion about independent choice and uniqueness when it comes to products that are consumed in public (rather than in private) and possessions that define who we are as individuals. (Remember that indie band you used to like, until they became "too popular"?) Although there is a growing trend of allowing consumers to personalize products, choices are of course constrained by what is made available to us in the first place. As a result, our individuality is expressed more through a unique combination of choices than specific possessions. But those of us with a high need for uniqueness just can’t help but sometimes feel that our distinctiveness is compromised by others’ choices mirroring our own. Fortunately for us, we often live in blissful ignorance. So far, I haven’t spotted another person wearing the same jacket.

thanks evan 

I am sick and tired of everyone asking,
instead of 

#feelings #thoughts

thanks sarah 
The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.

- Thich Nhat Hanh
There are so many things

I will never know.